If they’re gonna judge you for life
Say we can’t always be fly
We gon’ be good long as them sneakers white
You’ll be alright
Said you’ll be alright
Said you’ll be alright
Said you’ll be alright”
21.
Two decades ago a female clothed in milk chocolate surfaced on this here planet.
A Leo, she embodies some of the strongest traits associated with this zodiac.
She is fire, although sometimes the flame is reduced to a mere glowing ember.
Super sensitive.
She wears her feelings as her favorite accessory and flaunts them through her writing.
As ambitious as they come, she dreams and occasionally, she has been known to follow the dreams like they are her religion.
Sometimes domineering, she doesn’t always take the lead but Lord when she does, the other subjects better step aside.
Stubborn she is. But the gods did the world a favor and blessed her with a mild dose of being a liberal. She will take you as you are, if you first do the same for her.
She is vain. And this is the side some of them may see because the pride in her wont let the world see the brokenness she sometimes conceals.
And she, she allowed herself to turn twenty one.
She didn’t want to.
But then again when did a Leo ever welcome change with open arms?
But then 21 came and brought with it the calming re-assurance that whatever it had in store would be beautiful. One way or the other.
See, she had been nursing some scars but Miss Chocolate Leo became her own muse for the first time. For the first time she came face to face with the ghosts of being un-pretty she had tried so hard to exorcise. She stared at the perceptions that taunted her in the past and said,
She allowed herself to be her own muse. And loved every minute of it.
And then 21 told her there is more. 21 told her she can push the boundaries. So 21 told her to play the realest game of pretend ever. So she entered a real company and played employee despite her gross under-qualification for the post. She learnt confidence. She learnt hard-work. She learnt that bravery is that muscle gained when only after daily practice. She learnt she can be more. She learnt that maybe the whole school thing isn’t such a waste of time.
But see 21 wasn’t done with her. 21 reminded her of her little star and 21 was the time to let it shine. So she dared to share a platform with the greats. Amateur though she was, 21 told her that by engaging with her kind-overthinkers with a love for words and poetic imagery- she could find a place she can belong. So she did. She dared her little star of talent to shine. She dared to subject herself to editors and deadlines for posts and she fell in love with her gift even more. And while she waits for the world to fall in love with it too,21 told her sometimes the effort to use the gift is more than enough.
21 didn’t turn out to be exactly what she wanted it to be, but it surely was infinitely beautiful.
And when she looked beyond everything that 21 was meant to be but wasn’t, she realizes that 21 did her just fine,
So here is to 21. To how infinitely beautiful it was.
And to 22-whatever happens it could only get better. Eventually.
I never thought a day would come when my brain would rather think of writing pieces that revolve around me and not about fictional people I wish I knew.
But I guess that’s just how it is. One day you love fiction and telling stories about others and the next you become this vain person whose favorite subject is yourself.
So this is me putting it out there that I am vain. Very.
I can spend hours making trips to the mirror just to look at myself and I take only a trillion selfies when I feel pretty.
But the most vain thing about me is that I AM MY OWN MUSE.
Everything about me seems to inspire me to write.
I write about myself when I am in love or lust or something in between.
I write about me when I am sad.
I write about me when I do something good.
I condemn myself when I feel I have not been a very good human being.
I write about my beauty and my insecurities.
I write about my dreams and my feelings.
I write about what I love.
I write about what I hate.
I am insanely fascinated by me so of-course my favorite topic to write about is ME.
Yes, vanity is real. Don’t judge me. Or Kanye. Or all the other vain people in the world.
We don’t want to be this way but we can’t help the fact that we find ourselves so amazing.
But as I write about myself, the one question I constantly grapple with is who I am.
On some days I feel inspired and ready to take on the world, does that make me an alpha type of person? The truth is due to some serious genes I have classic serious Choleric tendencies. Sometimes.
But some days I want to do not a damn thing at all. I want to just sit around watch life pass me by and just be in my lazy happy place, am I hippie? The true phlegmatic. Some days that’s who I am and who I wish I could always be.
And sometimes I become this Melancholic Person. The poet inside me prefers quiet,lonely time so that the creative juices can go crazy. That person thrives in silent spaces that allow me to be in touch with my deepest feelings.And I am in love with her.
But some times there is also this wild, full of energy fun-loving persona I become. In fact for some people that is the only person they know because they bring her out. And I love this version too.
And that’s where I get confused because society expects us to be one thing and I am these four people and infinite shades of what lies in between so that’s why the question comes up, who am I?
Really?
Yet society does not appreciate this.
The society we live in insists on putting everyone in these boxes and condemning those who do try to get out of them.
If you are a leader you are expected to be one always even when you do not feel like being one. People do not believe in giving others breaks.
And if you are a bad, you are a branded a bad person even when you do try to be good you can not because the box society puts you in dictates that no good can ever come out of you. Ever.
I may have been a victim of this. And I may also have been a perpetrator of this.
Because at times it is not always easy to accept others for who they are and not treat them differently when they exercise their right to exist freely.
But because I was or can be both does not mean that is who I am.
I am good and bad and happy and sad and pure and impure and all these things. Who I am at one point is not who I will be.
My being is a complex totality of all these things I choose to be and I am happy to live as this complexity.
Everyone has this right too- to be who you were not yesterday and to again be someone totally different tomorrow.
The fact that you are a human being living your life in a way that makes you happy does not mean you are bad. You are just human and the world should respect you for being this.
So again I ask the question, who am I?
Really?
Truth is I don’t know.
And I am not even going to try to figure me out.
I am simply Me, Whoever Me is at the moment.
The only thing I am sure of is I have learnt not judge you for being you. So go ahead and do you. Whoever or whatever you want to be at the moment.
2. What legacy would you like to leave behind?
I would love to be a soft memory who impacted the world by having a clean heart and showing that there is more to life than negativity. I want the world to be a place where people love each other a little more and show it in their unique ways just because my life was filled with the same kind of energy.
I want the world to be a place where art is celebrated by everyone because beauty is universal and it is in everyone and everything.
3. Name one thing you love about yourself, why?
My creativity, just because it is the one thing I learnt about myself at a very young age. My ability to be a great writer/poet is what makes me unique and gives me a million reasons to fall in love with myself everytime I look in the mirror.
4. What would you like to change about yourself or improve on?
Coming from someone who has had her fair share of self esteem issues growing up, you would expect this list to be lengthy but right now I am starting to accept myself the way I am. BUT! If I was to think about it hard enough I’d say I am not the most patient of people, I wish I wasn’t. And also I am working on warming up to people more.
5. If you could fly for a day, where would you go?
Sydney in the Summer. Because I was there once and I fell in love with the sun and the sea and life and I would do anything to get that good feeling again.
7. Where would you like to live? Why?
Somewhere where the sun shines almost every day. Like in a tropical island without the tropical creepy crawlies 😉
8. If you could meet anyone, who would it be? {past, present, future}
Past- my dad, just to talk to him and feel like his little girl again.
Present- Fashion Blogger Sharon Mundia because I admire all that she has achieved just by following her passion.
Future- My future teenage daughter, just to see how she would turn out.
10.Would you consider yourself happy?
This has to be the post which I wrote the fastest, thank God for the command copy+paste.
Anyway as I have too often mentioned, I am 20 and accepting that fact has been the hardest thing of my life because of the sudden reality that I am becoming a woman and the proverbial ‘rest of my life’ is now here and it’s time to make real choices.
I admit it hasn’t been easy and my mind is like this warzone with so much going on.
I thought I was alone until I came across this post on This is Ess which I could totally relate to because it described a lot of how I am feeling. So with the necessary permissions I decided to reblog it because I feel it could touch the hearts of a few more people and perhaps encourage them.
Oh and it was originally created by Sheila Shiru.
BEING IN YOUR TWENTIES….
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…One minute, you are insecure
and then the next, secure… |
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I have seen this template on a lot of blogs such as on Mumbi Shokey’s blog and often on This is Ess and I like them because they kind of give glimpses into people’s personalities which is cool. So here goes mine. Enjoy it…
Making: A simple beauty and style regime that I intend to maintain when I go back to school next sem because looking and feeling great always has a way of making you have a more productive day.
Cooking: Nothing much because I am lazy like that :-D. Though I did burn a finger making these potato stuffed chapatis last night. I am not a fan of too much chapati but I love potatoes and adding them to chapati takes the taste to a whole new level.
Drinking:Warm water because it is so cold outside. And tea because they serve a lot of it where I intern.
Reading:The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants: Forever in Blue. The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants series was like my survival guide as a teen and even now there are a lot of simple lessons I still learn from it. However I never got to finishing the series and I finally downloaded the last installment. This book is just so heartwarming.
Wanting: Red Lip Stick. A lot of it. Mac Ruby Woo anybody?? And a new phone. Specifically the 5.8 inch one my mama has.
Playing: Right now nothing but I have been listening to a lot of Jhene Aiko lately. Especially this track July with Drake. Such a nice song and the fact that it happens to be cold makes the song the perfect one to sing along to as I walk in the rain.
Deciding:What I’ll wear tomorrow. I never stop thinking about that. And also what I want to major in back in Campus.
Wishing: Tribalism would just end in this country. I hate it and it’s everywhere. We need to start viewing ourselves more as #tribeKenya because at the end of it all we are one people.
Enjoying: This cute little body spray: Charms Life from Dear Body. It smells so sweet and has this vanilla undertone that I simply looooove. And my Flormar lip-gloss in shade L407 which is so red and bold and super long lasting. Best buy of 2014 and yes I know I am not like a style/beauty blogger but I am a huuge lip-gloss/ lip-balm junkie and when I find a life changing one… the world shall know about it!!.
Waiting: For the next two weeks to end so I can finally get time to go to buy series from my DVD guy and indulge in my favorite pastime of watching meaningless reality television i.e. Love and Hip Hop!!!! I am yet to watch LHHATL season 3 and the complete 4th season of the New York one but from what I’ve been reading online the drama is like even more so I can’t wait!!
However, I will start watching meaningful TV. Someday.
Wondering: I don’t know. I think about a lot so I can’t point out one distinct thought.
Loving: All the people who do these random little things that put a smile on my face like leave a sweet comment whenever I share a post on my social media pages or give a lift on a rainy day or give compliments. I am all about little acts of kindness and I do appreciate the love.
Considering: The possibility that I should reconsider my career choices. Been thinking about that a lot lately.
Watching: The Regular Show. This cartoon is too too dumb. Always makes me smile after a long day.
Hoping: That the situation in this country shall get better and that in my lifetime I shall get the courage to be the change I want to see.
Marvelling :At how stylish Kenyans are. I am following like a looooooot of Kenyan style and beauty bloggers and I just love how Kenyans Kill it.
Wearing: A lot more boots because of the cold weather. In fact today I have a pair on and a red dress which I am starting to think is a bit short and not as suitable for the work place as I’d want it to be. Ooops!
Red dress and boots to work, yay or nay? The picture quality is the reason I need a new phone or DSLR:( |
Following: Hmmm… anyone and everyone’s blog just as long as there is anything beautiful on it… I am however exploring Sharon’s You Tube Channel that is pretty amaze-balls. The father’s day tribute video was so sweet it almost made me cry.
Knowing: That the week is over… Yaaaay. The weekend has been missed.
Thinking: Of ways to increase traffic to this blog. I am proud of it and it’s time to share my mind with the world.
Feeling: Happier. Because lately I’ve realized every day is a gift too precious to waste on being anything but happy and grateful.
Admiring: I know this is crazy but The Matatus that ply my route. Kenyans know how to get creative and they are these recent ones that have been pimped so nicely, they are actually a joy to look at and ride in. Go creative Kenyans!
Sorting: umm pass…
Buying: Lip Gloss and internet bundles. It sucks not having WiFi at home 😦
Bookmarking: Dear Doris. The author of this blog just has a style of writing that makes me laugh and go all WTF?! That to me is the definition of something interesting. Read it.
Giggling: Because of these Kermit the frog memes that are all over Instagram. People are just cray!
But that’s none of my business lol.
Helping: People out at work. I love being able to assist these guys any chance I get.
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Feel free to drop a link if you have used this template before. I love discovering new blogs